Dare to be sexy

I read a blogger application recently and the Store Owner had posted “include in your application a picture you’ve done that takes you outside of your comfort zone.” For me, the first thing that came to mind was this “dare to be sexy”. As women, it’s ‘ok’ to be “cute” or “the girl next door” or “the mother” or “the sister” … basically everything but overtly sexual. It still feels that if we step out confidently and choose to be sexy we’re either conforming to male gender stereotypes, we’re compromising our integrity or we’re doing it with some ulterior motive in mind. We shouldn’t be sexy by choice…but we can and we should allow ourselves that freedom if we choose.

Being sexy doesn’t mean stripping off and flaunting our bodies. It’s a state of mind; an attitude and how we carry ourselves. It’s confidence. It’s accepting who we are. It’s embracing our bodies and not hiding it underneath layers because we aren’t that size 6 on the clothes rack. It’s forgiving ourselves all our lumps and bumps, smiling and thinking “I’m great and I’m going to show you that I am an amazing person.” So, Ms. Store Owner, if you ever read this …. thank you. You’ve helped me step out of my comfort zone today ❤



Hair: CATWA HAIR / RockStar [A]

Hairbase: Just Magnetized / Basic Hairbase – set 14 (Catwa inc)

Skin: .Atomic. / Lumi – Creme 4 (Catwa and body appliers inc) / gacha item

Eyes: Zombie Suicide / Lynn Eyes – Lime (Catwa) / PocketGacha prize – February 2018

Earrings: Elle Boutique / Deja – add on hud used / Monthly Midnight Madness Prize available March 2018 – THIS WEEKEND ONLY – more info HERE

Necklace: Maxi Gossamer / Necklace – Jewelled Skull + Heart

Bodysuit: -Narcisse- / Victoria Bodysuit – add on hud used (Maitreya, Slink HG inc) / Monthly Midnight Madness Prize available March 2018 – THIS WEEKEND ONLY – more info HERE

Leg Tattoo: [White~Widow] / Silence – White (Maitreya worn)

Thigh garter: KC Couture / Erel – Skull Garter & Blade (Maitreya, Belleza, Slink, Tonic)

Pose: GingerFish Poses / Dirty Pretty (6 bento poses w/ mirrors inc) / *new release* available at Whore Couture Fair March 2018

Backdrop: FOXCITY / K-POP Star 2. (1) You Think / gacha item available at The Arcade March 2018


Reach out and say hello

I was at an event last week and had the pleasure of meeting a store owner for a shoe brand I adore. I won’t name names, but check out the shoe credits and you get the idea 😉 I had a fan girl moment and messaged the owner to let her know how much I admire her work. What followed was a lovely little conversation, which just had me smiling and relaying it to my friends afterwards (complete with fan girl hand movements – think jazz hands). One thing that stuck with me was that the owner said that she didn’t get many messages and I was surprised. If anything, I thought she’d be inundated and I didn’t want to be perceived as a pest. However in retrospect, I’m glad I did it because I’ve learned one thing from the experience: never assume that you know what is going on in the other person’s life and that you’re doing them a favour by keeping to yourself. Reach out and say hello, because that could be the thing that brightens their day, or stops a miscommunication from escalating into something that it was never meant to be.

Plus, then you get to have fan girl moments with me, and we can jazz hands together 😀



Hair: MINA Hair / Lily – Essentials

Sweater: RIOT / Paula Sweatshirt (Belleza, Maitreya, Slink inc)

Jeans: RIOT / Eleanor Jeans (Belleza, Maitreya, Slink inc) / *new release* available at FaMESHed March 2018

Heels: Phedora / Katty heels (Belleza, Maitreya, Slink inc) / *new release* available at Blush March 2018

Backdrop w/ pose: exposeur / The White Rooms

Um, no.

Funny how such a small word, containing only two letters, can often be the hardest to say. Whether it’s from fear of rejection, always wanting to be the life of the party or wanting to please other people, there can be a multitude of reasons we say ‘yes’ rather than saying ‘no’. It’s something I’m often guilty of; I won’t say no because I want to make other people happy, but it can be at the expense of my own happiness. So, if you ever hear those words exiting my lips, appreciate it’s from a need to preserve my sense of ‘self’ and it’s never ever intended to let you down.



Hair: Besom / Pixie Bun – brunettes w/ roots worn

Hairbase: Just Magnetized / Basic Hairbase – set 14 (Catwa inc)

Earrings:  zombie suicide / Quartz Crystal Earrings w/ hud / gacha item

Sunglasses w/ pose: Salacity / Heart shades – Um no / gacha item

Outfit (top w/ pants): MOoH! / Shelly outfit silver (Belleza, Maitreya, Slink, Classic, TMP, EVE, Tonic inc) / 50% discount until 8th March

Heels: Glamistry / Magnolia Heels (Belleza, Slink, Maitreya inc)

Pencil fence: MadPea / The Forgotten Playground – Pencil Fence / gacha item available at The Imaginarium March 2018

Backdrop: Rowne / Seminarska 4. Prague / gacha item



Melora Frost, the owner of Oubliette and Petite Mort, has very recently relocated and redesigned the sim for both of her stores at Witchwood. If you love anything Bohemian or Gothic, this is a lovely venue to explore and take photographs. If you’re a shopper and like freebies (who doesn’t?) the group is currently free to join and both stores have an abundance of group gifts and lucky boards to check out. It’s how I’ve been spending my Sunday morning, in between popping along to a few of my favourite stores to pick up some goodies. Who knows, we may even bump into each other this weekend 😉



Hair: Doe / Nylon – Essentials / Saturday Sale discount – THIS WEEKEND ONLY – then back to full price

Eyes: Nightmare / Frosted Eyes (Catwa, Omega inc)

Lipstick: Zombie Suicide / Love me Lips (Catwa, LAQ, Lelutka inc) / *new release* available at Cosmetic Fair

Facial piercing w/ tattoo:  !TLB / Cyber Piercing + Tattoo (Catwa, Omega inc) / Hunt prize – The Femboy Hunt March 2018

Collar: !Rebel Hope Designs / Valentine’s Heart Choker – w/ hud (Maitreya, Belleza, Slink) / former free gift – check store for availability

Raven skull necklace: Maxi Gossamer / Necklace – Raven Skull

Tattoo (arm): +Psycho Barbie+ / Henna Arm Tattoo (Omega inc) / group gift

Knee bruises: Sweet Evil / Knee bruises (Classic, Omega inc)

Dress: Oubliette / Nightshade Morgana Dress (Belleza, Slink, Maitreya, Classic, TMP inc) / VIP group lucky board prize

Garter socks:  +Psycho Barbie+ / Ouija Knee Highs w/ hud (Belleza, Maitreya, Slink inc) / Saturday Sale discount – THIS WEEKEND ONLY – then back to full price

Ankle boots:  +Psycho Barbie+ / Kitten Boots w/ hud (Belleza, Maitreya, Slink inc) / Saturday Sale discount – THIS WEEKEND ONLY – then back to full price

Pose:  GingerFish Poses / Devil I Love (6 bento poses w/ mirrors inc)

Scene Location: Witchwood (home to Oubliette and Petite Mort)



So, what do you do when you can’t sleep? Toss and turn in bed? Read? Watch some TV and hope for those tendrils of slumber to capture your mind? Well, I am experiencing this at the moment. I thought going to bed early last night would be a good idea. Turns out my mind had other plans and promptly woke me after 6 hours of sleep with random thoughts pounding my brain. I’ve tried relaxing music (it’s giving me a headache) and I’ve tried just lying in bed and thinking calming thoughts. Neither worked. So, what did I do? I did the Femboy Hunt in SL!

You can find more info about the Femboy Hunt on their website HERE….or if you go to any hunt location, you can pick up the hunt hud with a prize.

Apart from that, I’m going to shut up, give you the credits below and go back to sleep. I’m hoping after two hours of this flipping relaxation music something might happen. Who knows? Wish me luck!



Hair: [KoKoLoReS] / Sniper

Eyes: !TLB / Necro Eyes (Mesh, Omega inc)

Facial piercing w/ tattoo:  !TLB / Cyber Piercing + Tattoo (Catwa, Omega inc) / Hunt prize – The Femboy Hunt March 2018

Bodysuit: +MuggleBorn+ / Geneva CyberSuit (Belleza Freya, Maitreya, Slink HG, Solarian, V-Tech inc) / Hunt prize – The Femboy Hunt March 2018

Stockings: Lamp*Light / Limely Footless Stockings (Classic, Omega inc) / Hunt prize – The Femboy Hunt March 2018

Boots: Essenz / Montana – Black (Classic, Maitreya, Slink) / *limited time sale*

Pose: entangled poses / Sheila (3 poses inc)

Backdrop: ninety / wall alien black 1 / gacha item



Less butt, more brain.

So, I had the best of intentions for March to be a less ‘kinky’ month for me blog wise. February turned into a butt fest with so many designers creating designs that showed off the derriere. So, new month’s resolution…less butt, more brain. Sadly, my new month’s resolution is already faltering at day 1 with this dress from Narcisse paired with these thigh chains from Elle Boutique. The events…Whore Couture Fair and Kinky Monthly. Yep. No hope for me this month either!



Hair: MINA Hair / Shelley / former MMM item – check store for other colour combinations

Dress: -Narcisse- / Nelly Lace up Dress (Maitreya, Slink HG inc) / *new release* available at Kinky Monthly March 2018

Lipstick: Zombie Suicide / Valentines Lips (Classic, Catwa, Omega inc)

Thigh chains: Elle Boutique / Alessandra Thigh Chains (Maitreya, Belleza, Slink inc) / *new release* available at Whore Couture Fair March 2018

Heels: Glamistry / IRIS Heels (Belleza, Maitreya, Slink inc)

Lanterns: GOOSE / Nordic floor lantern

Balloons: hive / celebration balloons floor – pink / former FLF item – check store for availability

Pose: entangled poses / Xanthe (3 poses inc)

Backdrop: Fiasco / Little Star Stage / lucky board prize (no group needed)


Tick Tock

I love rediscovering music, especially songs I’d enjoyed a few years ago, forgotten about and then remembered again. One recent rediscovery has been her hit “What you Waiting for?” which I hear on repeat every time I look at the clocks in this picture. The lyrics had meaning 14 years ago when the song was released (14 years???!! Holy s**t where’s the time gone?!) but they resonate even more with me now, as time seems to move even quicker as I get a little bit older. So people, what are you waiting for?



Hair: Doe / Sugar – Browns

Eye makeup:  Zombie Suicide / Imperfect Shadow (Catwa, Lelutka inc)

Eyes: Zombie Suicide / Lynn Eyes – rare (Catwa) / PocketGacha prize – February 2018

Lipstick: Zombie Suicide / Valentines Lips (Classic, Catwa, Omega inc)

Mouth rock: Zombie Suicide / Stoned Mouth Rock 1 – rare / PocketGacha prize – February 2018

Necklace: Zombie Suicide / Moon Necklace 2 – rare / PocketGacha prize – February 2018

Dress: *LX* / Hope gown – Blue (Maitreya only) / *new release* available at The Trunk Show February 2018

Pose:  M I L A p o s e s / Gift Pack II (4 poses inc)

Scene Location: Whole Wheat Landscaping